Have a Deeper Conversation – or Not
Posted: Wed Dec 18, 2024 5:49 am
And when you respond to what the respondent says, try not to make moral judgments about the answers, as that may make the other person less comfortable.
And after asking a question, don't hijack the conversation by sharing something personal at the same time the other person is sharing something. You ask someone a question to listen to them, not to share something yourself.
7. Create psychological safety
Don’t let fear and uncertainty get in the way of the conversation. To have a deeper conversation, you need to make the respondent feel that they can share and do whatever they want, without being afraid that their answers are not good enough or too weird. That’s why you need to create a psychologically safe space. Read my previous article on how to do that!
When we have a conversation, it can be superficial, about last night's football game, our weekend plans, or the classic topic of conversation: the weather. But we can also choose to have a deeper conversation.
Know your depth level during a netherlands telegram data conversation, and know whether you want your questions to take you to a deeper level, or more to the surface. Not every conversation lends itself to going deep, but when you do, it’s usually good to start at the surface and go deeper over time. Are you talking about a heavy, deep topic? Then think about how you’re going to end the conversation. It might not be the best idea to end on a very deep topic and have to rush out.
Conversation depth plotted over time.
When you change the subject during a conversation, the conversation usually goes more to the surface. How do you then get to a deeper and more personal conversation?
There are two ways in which we can talk about a subject. We can refer to the subject, or we can talk about our relationship to it.
Tricky. Let me explain it with a simple example. Suppose we are having a conversation about bread. If you ask me about the bread, I will tell you that it is usually brown, sometimes white, and that it tastes a bit sweet and sometimes sour. You can also ask me how I eat it. This is what I call referring to it.
And after asking a question, don't hijack the conversation by sharing something personal at the same time the other person is sharing something. You ask someone a question to listen to them, not to share something yourself.
7. Create psychological safety
Don’t let fear and uncertainty get in the way of the conversation. To have a deeper conversation, you need to make the respondent feel that they can share and do whatever they want, without being afraid that their answers are not good enough or too weird. That’s why you need to create a psychologically safe space. Read my previous article on how to do that!
When we have a conversation, it can be superficial, about last night's football game, our weekend plans, or the classic topic of conversation: the weather. But we can also choose to have a deeper conversation.
Know your depth level during a netherlands telegram data conversation, and know whether you want your questions to take you to a deeper level, or more to the surface. Not every conversation lends itself to going deep, but when you do, it’s usually good to start at the surface and go deeper over time. Are you talking about a heavy, deep topic? Then think about how you’re going to end the conversation. It might not be the best idea to end on a very deep topic and have to rush out.
Conversation depth plotted over time.
When you change the subject during a conversation, the conversation usually goes more to the surface. How do you then get to a deeper and more personal conversation?
There are two ways in which we can talk about a subject. We can refer to the subject, or we can talk about our relationship to it.
Tricky. Let me explain it with a simple example. Suppose we are having a conversation about bread. If you ask me about the bread, I will tell you that it is usually brown, sometimes white, and that it tastes a bit sweet and sometimes sour. You can also ask me how I eat it. This is what I call referring to it.